I want to talk about something that I know many of us have faced—or will face—on this journey to better health, fitness, and overall well-being. It’s the fact that, along the way, people will quit on us, they might try to hinder us, and many won’t understand our level of commitment. But guess what? That’s okay, because ultimately, it’s up to us to create our own best life.
When I first started my transformation journey, I had big dreams. I was excited about losing weight, getting in better shape, and transforming my body, mind, and spirit. I thought the people around me would be just as enthusiastic, ready to support me every step of the way. But I quickly learned that not everyone sees things the same way.
Some people quit on me. Friends who were supposed to be workout buddies disappeared after the first few weeks. Others didn’t understand why I was turning down pizza and beers on a Friday night. Some even tried to hinder my progress, saying things like, “Why are you doing all this? It’s too extreme. You should just live a little!” At first, it hurt. It was confusing. I questioned if I was doing something wrong. But the deeper I got into this journey, the more I realized something important: this journey is mine.
Others Won’t Always Understand—and That’s Okay
Here’s the thing I’ve come to accept—people won’t always understand why you’re so committed. They won’t always see your vision or feel the same fire you do to make a change. And that’s okay! What’s important is that you understand it. You’re the one who has to live in your body, with your health, and with the consequences of your choices.
I realized early on that I couldn’t wait for others to be on board with my goals. This transformation was mine to own, and it was up to me to stay committed, even when the support wasn’t there, and even when people doubted me. Your commitment is personal. It doesn’t need validation from anyone else.
People Will Quit on You, but You Don’t Quit on You
I’ve had friends drop off the journey, cancel plans to work out, and give up on their own goals. It can be discouraging when people we thought we could rely on step back or quit altogether. But you know what? I realized that while people might quit on me, I’m not going to quit on myself.
At the end of the day, it’s about staying true to my vision, not theirs. Your journey is yours alone, and while it’s great to have support, you have to be your biggest supporter. Keep going when others stop. Keep pushing when they doubt you. Keep believing in yourself when they don’t understand why you’re doing this.
Don’t Let Others Hinder You
Sometimes, people will try to hold you back—not necessarily out of malice, but because they don’t get it. They might tempt you with unhealthy habits or say things that make you second-guess your choices. I’ve had people tell me I was “too obsessed” with fitness or that I was “missing out” on life by making healthier decisions.
But here’s the thing: I wasn’t missing out on anything. In fact, I was gaining so much more—energy, strength, confidence, and a sense of accomplishment that no indulgent meal or lazy day on the couch could ever provide. When people try to hinder your progress, it’s usually a reflection of their own discomfort, not your actions. Don’t let their insecurities become your limitations.
This Journey is About You—and Only You
I want you to know this: It is up to you to create your own best life. No one else can do it for you. And while others might not see your vision, that doesn’t make it any less real or less important. You don’t need anyone’s permission to pursue your dreams. You don’t need their approval to go after the health, body, and life you want. This journey is about becoming the best version of yourself, not the version others expect you to be.
When you take full responsibility for your journey, you also claim the power to create the life you truly desire. This is about more than just losing weight or getting fit; it’s about stepping into your power and knowing that you have the ability to shape your future.
Let Go of the Need for Validation
One of the most freeing realizations I had was that I didn’t need external validation to keep going. I didn’t need people to cheer me on or give me approval. I had to believe in my own journey enough to push forward regardless of who was watching or supporting me.
You don’t need validation from anyone to live the life you want. Your commitment is between you and your goals. And the moment you stop seeking approval from others, you gain the freedom to pursue what truly matters to you.
Creating Your Best Life
So, here’s my message to you: It’s okay if people quit on you. It’s okay if they don’t understand why you’re so committed. It’s okay if they try to hold you back. None of that defines you or your journey. What matters is that you believe in yourself. What matters is that you stay committed, no matter what. You have the power to create your own best life, and no one can take that away from you.
Keep pushing forward. Keep showing up for yourself. Stay true to your goals, and know that the rewards of your hard work will be worth every challenge you face. This is your journey, and no one else can walk it for you. But trust me, when you own it, when you refuse to quit on yourself, the transformation is more than worth it.
Stay strong, keep going, and remember—you are in control of your own best life.
